Why Fear Can Be Your Best Friend

Photo by Melanie Wasser on Unsplash — Welcome and embrace fear, don’t hate it.

Fear is a very powerful word. It’s not one most people say lightly, and that’s because every single human being out there knows what fear feels like.

And if you’re thinking you’re special because you know “what REAL fear feels like” or some other crap like that, I’ve got news for you: You ain’t special.

But that is beside the point.

You’re probably thinking something along the lines of “what the hell is going through this guy’s head for him to say that fear can be a friend?? Wtf”.

Allow me to explain.

I’m going to keep it simple and unique to you.

I want you to think back on your life and remember the fears that you’ve overcome.

It can be anything. From standing up to your toxic and abusive family member, to going on your first rollercoaster ride. Whatever it is, EVERYONE out there can find some sort of fear that they’ve defeated before. Even if they’re just silly fears children have.

Don’t keep reading, actually search in your mind and get AT LEAST 3 examples of fear you’ve beaten before. Only once you’ve found that should you keep going.

Now that you’ve (hopefully) done that…

Think about how different your life would have been if you had never overcome any of those fears.

REALLY imagine it.

I’m guessing about 99% of people reading this will be imagining a worse life. A life fully ruled by fear and with no freedom in sight. A life that you have no control over because you allowed fear to fully control you.

But if you’re still not convinced, think back to huge key moments in your life where you made a decision based on fear. A moment when you didn’t take the plunge and decided to stay in your wonderful and fluffy comfort zone.

Have any moments like that popped up in your mind yet? My guess is at least one moment probably has…

Now imagine how it would’ve been if you hadn’t pussied out. If you had been brave enough to face your fears and do whatever it was that scared you to death. Now I’m SURE you’re thinking it would’ve been awesome. Right???

For my fellow gamers out of there, fear is pretty much like the enemies that show up when you’re beating a game…

If you find enemies, that means you’re going in the right direction. But guess what?

If you feel fear, that means you’re going in the right direction too.

THAT is how fear can be your best friend. It can literally tell you that you’re headed in the right direction. All you need to do then is KEEP GOING no matter what.

When you feel fear, that just means you’re stepping outside of your comfort zone. And your comfort zone is where your dreams go to die, so stepping out of it is ALWAYS the best decision to make.

Like Jack Canfield once wrote, “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear”.

So, stop hating something that has been trying to help you this whole time. You not conquering your fears was the only problem all along!

I hope that, from now on, you’ll excitedly face any fear you may feel.

If you think you can’t do it on your own and would like help with that, I’m a life consultant and I can help. You can learn more about me and what I do on my official website at https://myupself.com/

But don’t think you can’t do it alone. Life is all about You vs. You.

And you GOT THIS. I believe in you.

- Dez



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I’m a Life Consultant writing about topics that help people around the world with mindset struggles. You can learn more about me here: https://myupself.com/