How Important Can A Monthly Reflection Be?

Photo by kevin turcios on Unsplash — Reflecting is how you hang out with yourself in your mind

Reflection is one of the most underrated practices of today.

Reflection is — now more than ever — an incredibly valuable habit to have.

But just how important can reflection be? Am I just overhyping it to get you to read the full article?

You can rest assured I’m not. I’m not really invested in whether you read the full article or not.

That’s up to you.

I believe the value is here, and I’m offering it to the world. I can’t concern myself with who will take advantage of it or not.

So, if you think you might respect my opinion, feel free to read on.

One of the biggest reasons why reflection is so crucial is the ease with which we can go into what I like to call “Auto-Pilot Mode”.

That’s when your body and your subconscious mostly take over and just do what they’re used to.

Anything you do repetitively, you end up doing on auto-pilot mode. You only consciously do what’s new, nerve-wracking, scary, etc.

If an activity is the same-old repetitive thing, you’ll just do it automatically.

Just think about something you do every single day. It could be preparing your breakfast, making your bed, washing the dishes, taking a shower, whatever.

Can you remember yourself doing it today? Can you genuinely remember that moment?

Probably not.

Not only have you done it thousands of times before, but you were also not paying that much attention to it anyway. Because you don’t have to. It’s a repeated experience.

That’s how the auto-pilot mode creeps in.

Once you get comfortable with something, it’s as if your body and your subconscious tell you “Hey, it’s ok. I gotcha, I’ve seen you consciously do this many times before. Feel free to take a step back and get lost in your thoughts while I take care of this thing we’ve done hundreds or thousands of times before”

And then that’s it. Without you even realizing it, you’re in auto-pilot mode.

However, what I just described is pretty useful. There’s no big disadvantage to it.

I mean, why would you always want to be paying attention while you take a shower or wash the dishes?

The thing is, we’re talking about isolated activities. There is nothing wrong with going into auto-pilot during isolated activities.

The problem is when our whole life becomes routine.

When most days are just super repetitive.

When that happens, there’s danger.

There is a danger that you might be finding yourself spending more time on auto-pilot than consciously being present.

Why is this dangerous?

Because your subconscious is only concerned about the immediate future. It only cares about getting instant gratification and it never ponders on the potential consequences present actions can have in the future.

And THIS is exactly why reflection is important.

Reflection is the antidote to an almost permanent auto-pilot mode.

It’s REALLY easy to kind of just stop consciously thinking about what you’re doing with your life. It’s just so much easier to go with the flow.

You can just get a job and do whatever while you’re there. Maybe you’ll get a promotion, maybe you’ll get fired and get some other job.

You can also just ask your friends to make decisions for you. Why decide where to go on vacation when somebody else can decide for you? All you need is to show up.

This attitude is basically the attitude of someone who is not consciously at the helm of their life. They’re not in control. Maybe they’ve even been defeated by life and have given up on themselves.

Is any of this what you want for yourself?

Reflection is how you avoid all of this.

Once in a while, take a pause from your life and logically ask yourself

“What am I doing? Is everything that I am doing aligned with my long-term goals?”

If the answer is no, then you need to change what you’re doing on a daily basis.

Making time to reflect is how you keep evolving.

Practicing regular self-reflection is the difference between being a ship captain who is just holding the helm and letting the ocean decide where the ship is going and being a ship captain who knows EXACTLY where to go and how to get there.

This article is titled “How Important Can A Monthly Reflection Be?”, but feel free to do it more often.

As long as you’re a person of action, there’s no way you could ever reflect too much. It’s always a good thing to take a pause and think of what you’ve been doing recently.

It can make you realize small details you otherwise never would’ve missed.

Here is one short and basic example: I share accountability documents with most of my accountability clients. Currently, I’m using Google Spreadsheets for this.

My design of the spreadsheets was always extremely basic because I just had decided I wasn’t good at “Excel Designing” or whatever it was that I called it.

But one day, I stopped to reflect and I thought “Wait a minute, who cares if I’m not good? There’s something called improving. Ok, I’m going to learn how to do it”.


Nowadays, my spreadsheets look much better and have even become more practical thanks to their design. Without self-reflection, I never even would’ve realized I had that area to improve on.

So, trust me when I tell you that reflection is what you need to get your life to the next level.

Never stop hustling & never stop dreaming,

- Dez

P.S. I’m a Life & Business Coach and I’d be happy to help you reflect on a weekly call if you think you could use some help! You can check out my official website for more information

P.P.S. You can book a 100% free call with me



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